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You’ve dreamed. You’ve prepared. Now you’re finally starting to make the selections that will physically shape your home.
This is where things start getting really exciting because you’re going to begin seeing your design come to life.
But it’s also where the decisions begin carrying a little more weight.
We’re moving into layouts, flooring, cabinetry, countertops, tile, lighting, plumbing, architectural details, and all of the materials and finishes that begin creating the foundation of your home.
Some of these decisions will be relatively easy to change someday. While others are not so much.
The closer something is to the foundation of your home, the more carefully I want you to consider it.
Not because I want you to be terrified of making the wrong decision.
Quite the opposite, actually.
I want you to understand which decisions deserve the most attention and why, so you can make them confidently and keep moving forward.
Not Every Design Decision Carries the Same Weight
You’re going to make A LOT of decisions throughout a home project.
But one of the most important things to understand is that they aren’t all equal.
Choosing a paint color doesn’t carry the same weight as choosing a countertop.
Paint is relatively forgiving. If you absolutely hate it, you can paint over it.
But that doesn’t mean changing it is free. Repainting an entire house can require a significant amount of time, labor, and money, but comparing that with tearing out countertops, cabinetry, tile, or flooring is a pretty big difference.
Or consider your floor plan compared to your cabinet hardware.
The layout and flow of your home directly affect how you live in it. Once walls, plumbing, electrical, cabinetry, and other elements are built around that layout, changing it becomes incredibly difficult and expensive.
Cabinet hardware matters too. It’s functional, beautiful, and one of those finishing details I like to think of as the jewelry of a kitchen. But if you decide five years from now that you don’t love it anymore? No biggie. You can take them off and replace them.
Unfortunately, your floor plan isn’t quite as forgiving.
That’s why, when you’re trying to determine how much weight a decision deserves, I want you to consider:
Permanence — How difficult is this to change?
Cost — What would replacing it actually cost?
Installation — How much work is involved in changing it?
Function — Does it affect how the home works?
Longevity — How long should this realistically serve you?
Visual impact — How much influence does it have on everything else?
Instead of treating every decision like an emergency of equal importance, this gives you a framework.
The more permanent, expensive, functional, interconnected, or difficult something is to change, the more consideration it deserves.
Start With the Decisions That Are the Hardest to Change
This is why I like to think about designing a home from the foundation up.
Start with the things that will have the biggest impact and are the hardest to change.
Depending on your project, those foundational decisions might include:
- Layout
- Flooring
- Cabinetry
- Countertops
- Tile
- Plumbing locations
- Electrical and lighting locations
- Architectural elements
- Major fixtures
Then we continue layering from there.
There isn’t one universal order that works perfectly for every project. A bathroom remodel isn’t going to have the same hierarchy as furnishing a living room, and a new build is going to require decisions that a kitchen refresh won’t.
And that’s okay because the principle stays the same.
That principle is:
The harder, more expensive, more permanent, and more interconnected something is, the earlier and more carefully it generally needs to be considered.
And there’s another reason why I want you to start here.
These foundational decisions often help you make the smaller decisions that come afterward.
Once you have direction for the layout, flooring, cabinetry, countertops, and other major elements, you’re no longer choosing every little thing from an endless sea of possibilities.
You’re choosing things that need to work with decisions you’ve already confidently made.
Your options start narrowing down.
And believe it or not, that’s a good thing.
Understand the Ripple Effect of Your Decisions
Interior design doesn’t happen in isolation.
Everything has to work together if you want the finished home to feel cohesive.
A countertop isn’t just a countertop.
It affects the backsplash.
Cabinetry affects hardware.
Flooring relates to cabinetry, wall finishes, furniture, and adjoining spaces.
Lighting affects electrical placement, furniture layouts, how materials look, and how the room functions.
Plumbing fixtures need to work with sinks, countertops, cabinetry, plumbing locations, and the other finishes within the space.
On paper, these might look like individual decisions, but they’re not.
They’re relationships.
And this is one of the biggest differences between selecting a bunch of beautiful things and actually designing a home.
We talked about this way back in Dream: a designer isn’t simply looking at the flooring, paint, lighting, cabinetry, and furniture as isolated choices.
We’re looking at how they relate to one another.
Build is where you’re going to start seeing that idea come to life.
As your foundational selections begin connecting, the smaller decisions that follow often become easier because you’re no longer asking:
“What do I like?”
You’re able to ask:
“What makes sense with what we’ve already established?”
That’s a much more focused question.
Think Beyond What Looks Pretty
It is SO easy to get wrapped up in what looks good.
I mean…it is interior design after all, isn’t it?
And I never want you to think the pretty part doesn’t matter.
Because it absolutely does.
I want you to love looking at your home.
But a beautiful selection isn’t necessarily a good selection.
Maybe you fall in love with a tile.
Great!
But before we put it in the cart, we need to ask ourselves:
Where is it going?
Is it appropriate for that application?
How will it perform?
How will it be maintained?
Is it slippery?
Does it need to be sealed?
Or maybe it’s a countertop.
Is it durable enough for the way you actually cook and use your kitchen?
Flooring?
How does it handle pets, kids, water, dirt, or whatever real life looks like in your house?
Lighting?
Maybe it’s a beautiful fixture, but does it actually provide the kind of light you need?
Faucet?
It could be the most gorgeous thing you’ve ever seen, but does it function well with the sink you’ve selected and the way you’ll use it?
See how quickly “I love this!” becomes a much bigger conversation?
I’m not trying to take the fun out of selecting things.
I’m trying to help you make choices your future self isn’t going to curse you for.
Throughout Build, we’re constantly trying to balance:
Beauty. Function. Durability. Lifestyle. Budget. Context.
The best selection isn’t simply the prettiest option.
It’s the one that makes sense for your home and the life happening inside it.
Choose for Longevity, Not Fear
When you’re investing significant time and money into a home project, chances are you don’t want to do it all over again in three years.
But I want to be careful here.
Designing for longevity does not mean stripping every ounce of personality out of your home.
And it certainly doesn’t mean your entire house needs to be white, beige, and completely lacking anything that could possibly reveal what decade you designed it in.
Designing for longevity means making intentional choices you’re willing to live with.
Maybe there’s a tile you absolutely love that’s having a moment right now.
Ask yourself:
“Do I love this because it’s everywhere right now, or does it actually feel like me?”
And:
“If I don’t love it five years from now, how difficult and expensive will it be to change?”
If it’s something relatively simple and affordable to replace someday and you’re okay with that possibility?
Go for it.
If changing it would require demolition, thousands of dollars, multiple trades, and three weeks of your life?
Maybe that decision deserves a little more consideration.
You’ll often hear the advice from interior designers to make the permanent elements “timeless” and add personality through easier-to-change pieces.
There can absolutely be wisdom in that.
But I don’t want you to interpret timeless as safe.
A home can have personality in its cabinetry, tile, flooring, architecture, and permanent finishes and still have longevity.
The question isn’t:
Will everyone still like this in ten years?
It’s:
Does this make sense for my vision, my home, my lifestyle, the architecture, and the amount of effort I’m willing to put into changing it someday?
Your home doesn’t need to appeal to everybody.
It needs to make sense for you.
Give the Big Decisions the Time They Deserve
It’s okay to take time to make an important decision.
Actually, I want you to.
I’d much rather you thoughtfully consider something now than rush through it because you feel pressure to choose and regret it once it’s installed.
But, and this is a BIG but, giving a decision the time it deserves is not the same thing as endlessly second-guessing yourself.
We don’t want:
“I need to be thoughtful.”
to become:
“I’ve ordered 47 countertop samples and haven’t slept in three weeks.”
Give important decisions parameters.
Give yourself a reasonable deadline.
Gather the information you actually need.
Compare your options.
Go back to your vision and project goals.
Then make the decision.
Because once a project gets moving, things can happen quickly.
Your contractor needs an answer because someone needs to order something.
Your electrician needs to know where the sconces are going.
Your plumber needs fixture information.
Your cabinetmaker needs dimensions.
Suddenly everybody needs something from you at the same time.
This is another reason all of that work you did during Prepare matters.
Preparation gives you room to make thoughtful decisions before they become urgent decisions.
And remember that changing your mind later doesn’t only cost money.
It can also cost labor, time, and disruption.
Sure, you can repaint.
But repainting 2,500 square feet isn’t the same thing as repainting a nightstand.
You can replace six light fixtures.
But now you’re sourcing six new fixtures, purchasing them, arranging installation, potentially repairing walls or ceilings, and figuring out what to do with the old ones.
There’s almost always more attached to a change than the change itself.
Taking a little more time now can save you a whole lot of it later.
Permanent Doesn’t Mean You Need to Find the “Perfect” Choice
Now, after everything I just told you, I don’t want you sitting there thinking:
OMG! MY COUNTERTOPS ARE PERMANENT. I MUST FIND THE PERFECT COUNTERTOP!
That is not what I’m getting at.
The point isn’t:
These decisions are permanent, so DON’T MESS IT UP!
It’s:
These decisions deserve more consideration, so let’s give you a process for making them confidently.
There isn’t one objectively perfect flooring, countertop, faucet, tile, paint color, or light fixture hiding somewhere out there waiting for you to discover it.
And endlessly searching for it isn’t going to make you more confident.
You’re looking for the right choice for this particular project based on the information you have.
Does it function?
Does it work with the other decisions?
Does it support your vision?
Does it make sense for your lifestyle?
Does it fit within the parameters of the project?
Do you understand why you’re choosing it?
If you can answer those questions, you don’t need another 37 tabs open just to make sure something better isn’t hiding on page six of Google.
Confidence doesn’t come from knowing you’ve found the only right answer. It comes from understanding why the answer you’ve chosen makes sense.
And then you move forward.
Build From the Foundation Up
That’s what I want you to carry with you as we move through Build.
The more foundational the decision, the more consideration it deserves.
Not more anxiety, more intention.
Before making one of those foundational selections, ask yourself:
How permanent is this?
How difficult or expensive would it be to change?
What other decisions does it affect?
Does it function for the way we actually live?
Does it support the vision we’ve already established?
Can it realistically serve us for as long as we need it to?
You aren’t trying to predict every version of yourself or your home for the next 30 years.
You’re simply making the best, most informed decision you can for the home and life you’re designing now.
And before we start selecting all of those materials and finishes, we need to begin with possibly the most foundational thing of all:
the space they’re going into.
Next in Build → Start With Space: Layout + Function
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